That is a very true statement. Life came at us fast and our family is having to make some changes. We left Texas at the very end of 2020 and moved to Tennessee where I began serving as the youth minister at a congregation in Madison. Ten months later, the day before my 40th birthday no less, I was let go from that position.
We promised our children this would be our last move, that we’re in our permanent home, and we intend to keep that promise. You see, between my Air Force career and serving in ministry my daughter has had to move during the school year three times, and my son twice. This move was particularly hard on him. I have no desire to put my family through another move, especially when we haven’t been in our current house for even a year yet.
I’m not looking for another ministry position, for several reasons, but a big one is it would likely require us to move again. My long term goal is to work as a counselor/therapist, but I am in graduate school working on my education so I can eventually gain licensure to become a counselor. My only recent marketable skills are rather niche in nature being ministry, military intelligence, and aircraft maintenance. Any of my past computer technology and web development skills are out of date. So I am searching for non-clinical positions within the mental health field. I’ve been applying to intake coordinator, case manager, or similar positions in the areas surrounding White House, TN.
Please keep us in your prayers, thoughts, and vibes as we navigate this situation. And please let me know if you have any non-clinical mental health open positions. Thank you!
I came across this while reading for a class this week:
“I do not require my clients to be virtuous in order to continue in therapy. There would be few clients and few therapists if the standard of full moral integrity was imposed on all of us.” (Doherty, 1995)
That’s comforting, right? I mean, the reason most people seek counseling is because they are having trouble with their values, feeling, emotions, etc. So it makes sense that a counselor wouldn’t kick a client out because they’re not perfect! But the author also says there wouldn’t be many counselors either, if they were expected to be perfect. Hmm…
The church is like that… right? It should be. Could you imagine what it would be like if we had to be perfect in order to be a part of God’s family? I think sometimes we expect perfection, and we should most definitely try our best, but we’re just not. We need to stop expecting perfection out of imperfect people who just want to come worship God and have a church family to be a part of. This also goes for ministers, teachers, elders, and deacons… no person in the church, no one on this planet is perfect.
One big difference in the church and a counseling practice, is our Wonderful Counselor (Isaiah 9:6) is perfect! But the same as an earthly counselor, he doesn’t expect us to be perfect, he understands us (Hebrews 2:17, 4:15). This isn’t an excuse to not strive to be perfect, to be like Jesus, what it is though is love. He loves us even though we’re not perfect. We need to love each other, even though we’re not perfect.
Doherty, W. J. (1995). Soul searching: why psychotherapy must promote moral responsibility.